July 26, 2010

Green Donkey's and Tag Sales

It's Monday so you can assume at least for the time being that I went to at least one yard sale this weekend. We actually call them "tag sales" where I live, but I have heard that most of the U.S. calls them something else. What are they called where you live?

The 'tag sale' was just down the road from where I live. I really had no intention of going to any this weekend, but because it was so close and I had to go to the post office near to it I thought I would drop in.
I have a thing recently for old magazines and I asked if they had any. The lady said there were some paper goods...over there...and so off I sauntered.

 I took the one magazine they had, it is from November 1968 and because it is a gift for my daughter I am not going to divulge what it is.  She WILL like it and I will send it off to the camp she is managing for the summer so she can have some downtime daydreaming.

Peaking out from amongst the stuff I saw this: I don't know why blogger is uploading it sideways, but I can't fix it. Imagine it is running horizontally instead of vertically.
What caught my attention is that it looked like a "Green Donkey". Green Donkey's are very important to me. How about you? This is what "Green Donkey's" mean to me (as written in 2004 on another blog of mine). I have many talents, this one not related to vintage at all.
How we got our NameGreen Donkey Marketing
This is the true story of what Deepak Chopra would call a "Whopper". Something so touched with the hand of God that it seems almost impossible to believe, and yet, there can be no doubt to those of us that are believers!

My best friend died on May 15, 2004 from breast cancer at the age of 45 after a 10 year battle with HER-2 Breast Cancer. We had spent 40 years weaving the fabric of our lives together in a dance that was just magical. Ours is a long story of love and friendship. It is hard to relay in a few words the significance of this miracle, but I will try.

We were both Transformational Healers, which is a form of energy healing …or laying on of hands. We work as conduits for God to work through us and ignite the healing that we all are capable of. She became interested in this because of her cancer and I was always searching for new spiritual avenues and she led me to it like a horse (donkey) to water. (Another whole whopper of a story!) Anyway.....

In the spring of 2002 Karen began having massive head aches and was feeling “"weird”". We were headed off for a little R & R weekend in New York state and having a grand time …just the two of us tooling around in the car. She became very serious at one point and told me she thought her chemotherapy may be causing these "weird" symptoms and she was struggling as to whether or not to go off the chemo and just let God work. I told her this was a HUGE decision and one not to be taken lightly. I am a big believer in asking God to give us a sign when we need an answer to an important question. Because this was a VERY important question, I told her she needed to ask for a sign that would be unquestionable. Something so “strange” that it could only be seen as a "sign" from God. I then said, "How about a green donkey"? She giggled and agreed that a green donkey would be the sign she needed to let God heal her rather than continue on the chemotherapy. The whole rest of the weekend we searched for a green donkey. We found yellow pigs and purple cows, red dogs and even a green horse...how we tried to rationalize that a horse is almost a donkey, but we knew it had to be a "Green Donkey". We spent the next afternoon in Woodstock, NY going through every store searching for her sign, but never found a green donkey.

A week later the headaches she was experiencing became much worse and she called her doctor and he scheduled an MRI . During this same week …her father passed away from Alzheimer’s. It was a heartbreak to her very close knit family but had been expected. On the morning of his funeral… she received a phone call from her oncologist that he had the results of her MRI and the cancer had spread to her brain, thus the headaches and "weird" feelings and she needed treatment to begin "that day". She went through the whole day of her fathers funeral …and told no one except her husband what she had found out that morning. She had courage beyond human strength. She made it through brain surgery, massive radiation… and lived two more years. She passed on May 15, 2004 surrounded by her whole family.

What follows is what I said at her memorial service (which 700 people attended)...notice the part about the “green donkey” toward the end.

I have had the pleasure of knowing Karen for over 40 years and calling her one of my best and dearest friends. But I know I am just one of countless best friends that Karen had…there was something about her that just made you want to be close to her and know her better. It reminds me of the song by the Carpenters.

On the day that you were born
The angels got together
And decided to create a dream come true

And starlight in your eyes of blue.

That is why all the girls in town
Follow you all around.
Just like me, they long to be
Close to you.

To Karen’s family…she was a mom, a wife, a sister, a daughter, a cousin…but for the vast majority of us here today….she was our friend. A friend of the truest sense…one that was there for each of us no matter what was going on in HER life. Remarkable, selfless, trustworthy, sincere, kind, compassionate, spiritual, beautiful are words that can only begin to describe Karen.

Besides being a friend…Karen was a teacher…she taught me more about strength and courage than I ever wanted to know. When my son deployed to Afghanistan in Oct, she came to me one day like an angel sent from the Lord…. She held me and cried with me and instilled in me the Power of Now and gave me strength that I did not know I had. If I can take one tenth of her strength and live the rest of my life than I will be happy.

I will miss her human presence more than I can even imagine at this time... her spirit while she was on this Earth was immeasurable. What I look forward to from this day forward is how she will guide, love, and watch over each of us in her new found strength in SPIRIT.

And so I say to you my dear Karen…Godspeed to you on this new journey you have undertaken. I know Daddy was holding your green donkey… and that now you know all the Divine Order that is so hard for us to understand here on Earth. I giggle at the thought of our next life together and I ask you Sister Karen to hold down the abbey until I get there.

When I returned home from her service, there was a message on my answering machine from my son, who was in Afghanistan on the border of Pakistan, serving in the US Army with a scout/sniper team. He had NEVER, EVER called during the week since his deployment in Oct. of 2003. This happened to be a Tuesday night. This in and of itself spoke volumes to me. I was sad I had missed his call, but I knew he was okay and surely sending me some love from afar, even though he did not know of Karen's death yet (at least on the physical plane). Karen had given me extreme comfort about his deployment and the first thing she said to me whenever we spoke was, "How is Quinn doing?"

The phone rang again around 2:30 this same evening and again it was Quinn. What a joy to hear his voice. We spoke for about 20 minutes and during the conversation he mentioned that his best buddy had put new pictures up on a website of them in Afghanistan. I tucked this info into my mind to take a look at the  next day. I had only seen two photos of him since his deployment almost 7 months earlier. 

The next morning I went with Karen's family to a private burial and then spent the rest of the day with her family. I arrived home around 4:00 and read some e-mails and then remembered I had to check out the pictures of Quinn. This is now 5 days since her passing. There was a folder named "the Month of May". I opened this and started looking for pictures of Quinn. There were around 20 new photos. Mid way down the page I noticed that one picture was titled "Donkey". In the small picture format it looked more like a green tree. I opened the picture to its full size and almost fell to the floor, for there sent from a war torn country by an American soldier was Karen's sign that she had been healed. Not on this Earth, but alas in heaven. It was a picture of a donkey with a bundle of GREEN branches tied around it. She knew that if she involved Quinn in getting this sign to me, that she would be successful. I would NEVER not look at these pictures. This is SO Karen.

Picture of the "Green Donkey"
Karen left behind 3 children, a husband, 4 siblings and her mom, besides the countless, countless people she touched while here. The news of this Green Donkey gave peace to her family and our community. I feel her presence with me always and thank her for her continued caring and love. I know she is still with us and just around the corner...so to speak.

Blessings to all that read this story and please pass this on as a sign of faith and healing for the world.
So you see Green Donkeys are very significant in my life, although truly rarely seen. My whole being perks up at the site of something resembling a Green Donkey.

This was NOT a green donkey, it was a horse, and although it was not what I had imagined, it was significant non the less. It was sheet music to this song.
There are two, well maybe three, songs that my father repeatedly sang to his children, and grandchildren and this is one of them. It is a very, very special song to all of us and I am so pleased to have found this authentic sheet music from the time it was most popular. It only set me back 50 cents. Do you know this song? 

Mairzy doats and dozy doats and liddle lamzy divey 
A kiddley divey too, wouldn't you?
If the words sound queer and funny to your ear, a little bit jumbled and jivey,
Sing "Mares eat oats and does eat oats and little lambs eat ivy."
 Singing a happy tune,


  1. Loved the Green Donkey story--gave me chills but only reinforces my belief.

    As for Mairzy Doats--loved that song too! Sang it in 5th grade chorus.:)

    Thanks for sharing such a wonderful and amazing story.


  2. It is an amazing story...and to this day it still takes my breath away in the way that she got this message to me. She was an amazing women. I thought you would like this story.

  3. Thank you for sharing this. I think/know God allows us to receive comfort in miraculous ways if we open our eyes and look.

  4. Coedith, I agree wholeheartedly. I posted a comment on your other blog the other day about Surrender. I really would love to send you one of "those". xxoo

  5. I first understood those lyrics with Alan Alda in M*A*S*H*. Prior to that I just heard nonsense when hearing the song. By the way, they are called garage sales, mostly, yard sales, sometimes in the southeast. By any name they can be fun :)


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